John M. Mikolay

John M. Mikolay

11-03-1954 - 03-01-2020
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John M. Mikolay, a long-time resident of Rutherford, New Jersey, passed away on Sunday March 1, 2020 at the age of 65 after a brave battle with cancer.

Born in Manhattan in 1954 and raised in Bronx, New York, John was a self-made man. He graduated from Cardinal Spellman High School and worked to put himself through college at Pace University, New York, where he earned a Bachelor of Business Administration – Finance degree. John joined Morgan Guaranty Trust Company’s Corporate Trust Department in New York in 1972. Adhering to Morgan’s well-known dedication to excellence and company loyalty, John rose through the ranks to become Vice President in Private Banking. He remained with JP Morgan for nearly 40 years.

John will be remembered for his quick wit and generosity. He loved family gatherings, garage sales, old Hollywood movies, books, history (he was especially knowledgeable on Abraham Lincoln), country music, and a good cup of coffee. Master of trivia, John was replete with facts, old and new, which he lightheartedly referred to as “common knowledge”, and he often regaled his family and friends with funny one-liners and humorous anecdotes. Family was paramount to John; he devoted his life to his wife, daughter, and granddaughter, the very lights of his life. John was the heart and soul of the Mikolay family and will be profoundly missed.

Predeceased by his parents, Joe and Betty Mikolay, John is survived by his wife, Diane DiGirolamo Mikolay, his daughter, Andrea Mikolay, and his grand-daughter, Amber, and by his siblings, Elizabeth Mikolay, Dennis Mikolay, and Michael Mikloay. He is lovingly remembered by sisters-in-law Anne Mikolay, Joy Mikolay, Marie DiGirolamo Vasquez, and brother-in-law, Steve Vasquez, and by nieces/nephews, Emily Mikolay, Sarah Mikolay, Matthew Mikolay, and Dennis Mikolay, as well as by Christine Sullivan (Dennis Mikolay’s fiancé), Stephanie Jou, and Christopher Bagnato.

Family will receive friends Thursday from 4:00 to 8:00pm in the Calhoun-Mania Funeral Home, 19 Lincoln Ave., Rutherford. Funeral 9:30am from FH for 10:30am Mass of Christian Liturgy in the Church of Saint Mary, Rutherford. Entombment Clover Leaf Memorial Park Mausoleum, Woodbridge.

In lieu of flowers, the Mikolay family would appreciate donations to The American Cancer Society, PO Box 22478, Oklahoma City, OK 73123.
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  • Visitation

    Thursday, March 5th, 2020 | 4:00pm - 8:00pm
    Thursday, March 5th, 2020 4:00pm - 8:00pm
    Calhoun-Mania Funeral Home
    19 Lincoln Avenue
    RUTHERFORD, NJ 07070
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  • Service

    Friday, March 6th, 2020 | 10:30am
    Friday, March 6th, 2020 10:30am
    Church of Saint Mary
    91 Home Avenue
    RUTHERFORD, NJ 07070
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    Friends attending funeral are asked to arrive in funeral home at 9:30am.
  • Interment

    Clover Leaf Memorial Park Cemetery
    US 1 RT.35
    Wood Bridge, NJ
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Barbara Villanti

Posted at 12:47pm
John, I will never forget our friendship these last 35+ years. You always gave me wonderful advice and were always so kind, patient, and giving. You were a true friend. You made me laugh with your crazy sense of humor. I will miss you and our great conversations. God bless you and rest in peace dear friend. Sincerely, Barb Villanti

Elizabeth Mikolay

Posted at 09:33pm
John, I miss you like crazy. Growing up together we all shared many good times and some bad ones as well, but we always pulled together as a family. That’s how we are all going to move a family. I long for your one-line jokes and quick witted remarks. The way you laughed so hard while reading an article out loud resounds in my memory. I know you are keeping the family entertained in heaven. Love from your sister always.

Anne Mikolay

Posted at 03:39pm
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone."
Gone where?

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.

And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"

And that is dying...

John, our world is diminished without you, but we know you are in Heaven reaping your just reward. You were the most selfless individual I have ever met in my life. I love you with all my heart. Rest in peace, dear one. I'm sure your pain was gone, and you rejoiced, the moment you saw your heavenly family say, "Here he comes!" God bless you. Luv, Annie

Annmarie Andersen

Posted at 11:23am
John You were more than a friend and neighbor you became part of our family.We have so many wonderful memories of all the good times we shared and we will always hold them dear to our hearts.We will miss you everyday .I will treasure these last few weeks when I would text you memory lane memories of the good old days.I know you heard each and everyone of them and glad it made your day.Always in our hearts dear friend

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